Speaking to yourself

If you review, our selftalk is negative most of the time. We keep blaming ourselves for every wrong step in life. We keep discouraging ourselves by comparing with others. When we talk bad to others, they oppose, they revolt, they let us know we are wrong. But, it is tricky when we suppose to look at SELF TALK and evaluate it, because we will not have honest and blunt feedbacks. We become strict warden to words residing within and against us.. And we nurture it. This is why it is necessary to keep room full of positive words within us.

How do you listen yourself ? How do you learn what you are telling to yourself ? End of the day, you can keep time dedicated to talk to YOU. Write – Writing is beautiful way to get in touch with you. Write what you think, write what you desire, write how you feel. Mostly after few days, re looking into your own writing can give you an idea of How you are treating yourself. If you are being gentle to yourSELF.

Using affirmations

We long for someone to appreciate us, make us feel special, inspire us.. But we often ignore the fact that.. Thats YOU.. Only YOU. You feeling inspired within, you feeling complete and contented is permanent, rest all temporary. Hence, you telling yourself Positive Words make lot of difference. Don’t ever tell negative things to yourself. We have enough negativity around.. All you suppose to do is, talking good to yourself, talking good about you. Your thoughts create your reality, hence choose the reality that you deserve.

Talking positively to ourselves doesnt come naturally. We have to prepare ourselves for it over a period of time. Humans are very mush capable of thinking negatively very quick, this comes to us by default. Its time for us to train ourselves differently, enabling our positive side is major part of self care.

Speaking to others

When you are good and kind to yourself, it is easier to be kind to others. We humans are not that great in appreciating others but we are very quick in critisizing. Isnt it so ? We certainly see ten different good things a person doing, but our focus shifts on one negative aspect that we observe. Mostly, as children, as parents, as relatives, as friends.. if we start recoginizing and appreciating good around us, we can avoid misunderstandings, disappointments, mental agony and depression. Though it just takes minute to appreciate, do we really appreciate others daily ? If we do so ? If we keep a false pride aside and look at the world, we spontaneusly become gentle.

We justify critisism by saying “it is for their good”. The truth is usually when we are irritated inside and want to put our negative thoughts out, we harshly critisize. However, giving feedback can really do something good for others, even then, we need to be kind and gentle while putting our opinion across.

We are trained to focus on what goes wrong instead of what goes right. We are quick to point out mistakes made by our spouses, children, relatives, friends and colleagues. But it is very difficult for us to accept our mistakes and correct it on our own. We hate to accept the fact that “I can ever make mistake”
Also , some of us communicate harsh and hurting, we call it as “Being Straight Forward”. Come on, We cant justify our cruelty and negativity that way. Fact is, one can be straightforward still being kind. We shall just make sure not to use words for others, that we never would like to hear someone using to us.

Make sure you appreciate the moment you notice something good in others.. and in yourself. You can change your immediate environment with your right words.

Lets do it. Speak gently, make sure your words are healing not hurting. Spread positivity, spread happiness, within and around.